Rules for Jonas's room: You can only come in if I say so. No disturbing when Jonas wants to be alone. Molly can come in if she wants to. Be nice to Jonas forever when you enter. No messing with my cd player.
I like this paper for so many reasons. Mostly that it's a little window into Jonas's mind, and it's a pretty accurate record of the ongoing brother sister struggle for power and control. I love the irony of writing a list of rules and then posting it on your door when the ones you want to follow the rules (Gwen and Tess) can't read. How each line was added over time in response to specific situations. And finally how it was crumpled and torn up by one of the offending sisters. Not sure which one. I guess that if it was Tess it's more innocent. But ultimately speaks to the futility of Jonas's desire to completely control his own space. Aww Jonas, I feel ya. He's not the only one that's tried to enforce something merely by writing it on paper. A few months ago I printed up little cute signs that said "First we play, then put away" thinking naively that by simply having it posted it would miraculously happen, thereby solving all of my housekeeping troubles. "Oh! Mom wants us to put a way our toys?! I had no idea! I'll do that right away!" So let it be written so let it be done.
Here's some of my favorites from the Internet this week:
Why Luck Matters More than You Might Think along with The Secret Shame of Middle-Class Americans. About money and growing up and how things aren't the way you thought they would be. That effort would be rewarded equally and the american dream would reciprocate. Aw dang. The takeaway? Life's complicated, luck, social climate, circumstances, personal effort etc. all play a part in financial success and failure.
Farm fresh, organic, local, ethically grown, and handmade touting food companies and restaurants are lying to you. The biggest tip off? Price and constancy. If it's true it will be very expensive and change with the seasons. Hilarious relevant video.
This article about Monica Lewinsky made me think about the way we quickly judge, categorize, and simplify people. Objectifying, shaming. I've done it, you've done it. The internet and media lead us there easily. I liked the emoticons she's created at the end. We need to keep fostering the idea that we're all in this together.
The neurological pleasures of fast fashion. I thought it was interesting how clothes shopping has changed over time. I was also surprised to see that "haul videos" are a thing where girls show off what they bought. Ugh. Combat this with the power of good enough and limited choices.
More articles I liked:
- Comparing "marriage-material" from 1939 with today.
- Explaining why the older generation thinks the younger generation has gotten soft and why they may be right.
- "I have a suspicion that society, in its heart of hearts, despises depressives because it knows they have a point".
- And Science Says Art Makes Your Kids Nicer.
My favorite quote of the week:
There's something really amazing about when that last baby starts sleeping where you come out of this fugue state of parenting...The end of that stage felt wonderful, he says, but: "Now it's been seven years. I don't really know who I am. And you're looking at your spouse and you're like, I don't know who you are. I don't really know what I like any more because all of my needs have been subjugated for the good of these babies and our family unit. And you kind of have to re-figure everything out. " - Jay DuplassMoms on the Net - nothing like cheesy old videos.
Finally, A Parent's Worst Nightmare.